Today an excerpt from a cross-post at The Single Wives Club.
In every relationship there comes a point where you have to decide if you want to stay or you want to go. We’ve all listened to both sides of Beyonce making that decision about Jay-Z and it seems she could have decided she had ample reason to go.
Infidelity may be the ultimate betrayal, but even for less serious issues, you may start contemplating an exit plan. Those are times when you have to decide if the relationship you’re in and the man you’re with are worth it. Every relationship takes work, but how can you know if the work is worth it? Here are five ways you might be able to spot whether you two can ride off into the sunset or if you need to ride off all on your own.
Your partner makes you better.
If you’re with a man who makes you feel at your worst, he is not worth it. We may all feel fear or anxiety in a relationship, but if you’re with someone who plays on your jealousies or insecurities, he is not the one for you. Even a relationship that feels nice, one that provides you someone to watch Netflix with and a date to every family function, may not be making you better. Can the man you’re with encourage you in your entrepreneurial dreams? Can he even give you good ideas to help market your business? Does he call you out on bad habits that may be keeping you from advancing at your job? Does he tell you you should be asking for that raise because you work hard for it? That’s a man to keep around.
Your partner wants to be better.
And while he’s making sure you’re at your best, is he? We all want a man who is confident in his value, but a man should also be humble enough to see where he can be that much better. Is he advancing on his career goals? The last time he got upset about something was he able to come to you and say where he was wrong in the argument? When you ask for his help or support in something is he able to take a step back and see where you might be right? We are all works in progress, so perfection should never be the goal, but forward movement should be. If you have a man who isn’t satisfied with being the same person he’s always been, he might be a keeper
Read the complete post at The Single Wives Club.