I have never liked Halloween.
Maybe because my birthday is a few days before and as a kid, I got annoyed when everyone thought I would have a Halloween themed birthday party. Or maybe because when I was growing up the possible characters for a little black girl to dress up in felt pretty limited. Hmm, will it be Rudy from The Cosby Show or Cherie from Punky Brewster?
Mostly though, I think my dislike of Halloween (apart from the bags of candy, of course, because a bag of chocolate has only ever been a friend to me) comes from being an introvert.
Growing up, I let myself be saddled with the words shy and quiet with all the lameness people tend to associate with those words. As a woman, I fully claimed what I know I am instead: an introvert.
And what could be worse for someone who needs time to process by themselves in quiet? Who doesn’t enjoy small talk and instead thrives on longer, more substantive conversations? Who needs time to open up to others?
Dressing up in a costume to knock on stranger’s doors and yell at them.
Thankfully, Halloween is behind me and the holidays I enjoy because I can celebrate with people I care about and eat dressing and macaroni and cheese are around the corner.
But the world isn’t always so friendly for introverts even on non-ghoul infested nights. It’s getting better though, thanks to some rethinking of introversion in the last few years. So for all you introverts and those who love us, some resources to make every day more like Thanksgiving and a lot less like Halloween.
Not quite sure whether you’re an introvert or extrovert?
And did you know there’s actually different types of introversion?
And that introvert’s brains work differently?
Ever wondered why your introvert friend shut down when you showed up to happy hour with those co-workers she didn’t know?
You’re not alone in being an introvert, check out these celebrities who made their introversion work for them: