In a world of belfies, it feels like naked is the new normal. Bette Midler got taken to task some months ago about criticizing Kim Kardashian’s body pictures on Instagram. Some would argue that we’re all too exposed, in our Facebooks posts and with our Instagram belfies, but there is something to claiming your body, even if the audience is only you. A few ways to claim (or reclaim) your sensual side before the summer is up.
Take pictures of yourself.
Belfies, if you must. But others too, make them abstract, probably easier with the range of your mobile phone unless you have a selfie stick. Make them of parts you dissect and as a teenager (or just yesterday) talked about why you hate them. Your less than petite feet? Your fleshy thighs? The upper-arms that always get covered. Take pictures of it all.
Might as well put the last of the summer heat to good use. Turn off the air conditioning if you’re lucky enough to have it and embrace a good sweat in the buff. Or keep the air on and pile on the blankets like you’re on some sexy solo camping trip. Cool sheets on bare skin is nice and also if you’re the type who reaches for the towel while you’re still in the tub and hates to have the lights on during sex, it’s 7-8 hours of not hiding yourself.
Yes, in that way. Get out that hand mirror and remember (or learn) what your labias and clitoris and mons look like. Also maybe learn the words if all you’ve ever called it was down there. Make that exploration the last stop if you want to (or the stop for the next time if needed) and begin with touching other parts of yourself. How would a partner caress you that would make you feel sexy and loved? Touch yourself like that.
Dance to some music made by women.
Sex Shooter comes to mind, although the late great Prince actually wrote it, Apollonia 6 performed the hell out of it. Some Rihanna would also work. Katy Perry, back in the day Lil’ Kim, Jill Scott, Lady Gaga. Whoever your favorite female voice is. Why female performers? Because the talk about sensuality and sex is coming to you from a voice not unlike your own. Because your body is for you.