More than a decade ago, I bought a Diane von Furstenberg wrap dress at a church bazaar. It was vintage and $10. I bought it even though it was a size 2 and I was a size 8 at the time. I bought it because I loved dresses and skirts and because in my mind that dress would help make me the woman I wanted to be.
I didn’t have that phrase in my head then, “the woman I wanted to be,” but DVF provided it years later in an American Express commercial and used it as the title for her memoir .
Diane von Furstenberg will be 69 on December 31st, and although she isn’t a typical spinster (she’s married now and was married once before and is the mother to two kids), there is a Spinster in her. A woman, who because she has her own skills, her own mind, her own vision, is able to make of her life just what she wants.
That dress can still make me feel like I am the woman I want to be, but pants can do that for me too. And it got me thinking, as the year draws to a close and I’m plotting on how to get my 2016 just right, I’m making a list (and perhaps checking it twice) to figure out how I can feel like the woman I want to be as often as possible. So, in 2016, here are some choices I’ll be making to make that happen:
Dressing weird more often
Yes, I said weird. I don’t mean plaid tights with a flower print dress, although, wait…maybe. I just mean making bolder, more daring choices with my wardrobe. I was once told by someone that I had on an outfit that resembled a librarian’s and though he shall remain nameless, he knows who he is. But, actually he was right. I suffer from laziness with my wardrobe sometimes and then I also get worried about wearing something that will get me strange looks, but it’s the wilder stuff in my closet that I love, the black and white windowpane pants, the psychedelic pink tights, the leather skirt. I want to wear those more often and resist the urge to populate my attire with my easy to pull on sweaters in 2016. Like going to work one day, dressed like Diane back in the day.
Wearing vibrant red/fiery orange/bright magenta lipstick
And no, not all at once (but see the paragraph above). I love beauty products, but not necessarily makeup, but my mother has long espoused the value of red lipstick and I’m much more of a believer now. So, I’m going to let loose with more lip color in 2016. Small goals can yield big victories.
Taking my curls to a new level
I’ve had long hair. I’ve had short hair. Right now, I have an mid-length asymmetrical cut. What hair will I have in 2016? I’m not sure yet, but I know for years I kept my hair in ponytails and braids for shame of not having the right products for my frizz. Now, I kind of want long hair again because I do love a braid and high ponytails, but I also don’t wear my hair in those styles out of fear. And, if I get one side shaved and cornrow the other side, that might be kind of great. Or not, and then it’ll grow back.
Keeping my nails done
I’ve been historically bad about this. I try to keep the toes in check, but the fingernails? Not so much. I cook and I have a strange love of handwashing dishes, so those two and painted nails don’t always go. But, when I take the time to do them, I can’t help, but pick up things for no reason just to see how my nails look. For instance, this book I’m reading. It’s a small thing. It makes me happy. I’m going to do it more.
I’ve got some bigger goals too, some Take Over the World goals, but these are achievable and I don’t know about you, but I need those goals too. All ways to have a little more DVF spirit in my life, even without another vintage wrap dress.