Do you feel that your married friends are quick to give you advice about dating or life in general? As if they have it all figured out? How would it be if the tables were turned and we singles offered unsolicited advice about their marriage or how they should discipline their children of the corn offspring?
I have been in several scenarios where I notice a married friend will either chastise or belittle their spouse with a cutting remark meant as a “joke”. Only to see the spouse on the receiving end of the sly comment cringe and meander off with a hurt look on their face. Or notice the self-absorbed husband who does nothing to help out with the kids or the household chores but complains about how the wife never wants to have sex with him.
You can feel the tension between them and even at times get brought into whatever repetitive issue that they are dealing with again. To which, you just try to stay neutral and listen, when really what you want to say is “you two need get it together and finally go see a therapist about this crap!”
I find the worse situations are the ones dealing with the kids who are disrespectful to the parents. The kids that swear and yell that parents and they say or do nothing to discipline them. You know your friends weren’t raised that way and can’t figure out why in the world they put up with that. It literally takes all you have not to put the little hellions across your own knee!
Is it right to step and say something? In most instances unless it’s one of my sisters, I usually don’t feel right interjecting, so I don’t. I’m not saying that I don’t have anything valid to offer I’m just not sure how it will be received.
I err on the side of minding my own business or sadly I just try to avoid seeing those friends as much as I can get away with it. I often wish they would extend me the same courtesy when it comes to commenting on my single life and how I have to stop being so picky. At least being “so picky” has prevented me from being married to a jackass like your husband.
I’ll take being a singleton over that any day.