Because we are. A union not of bricklayers or plumbers. A union not joining two people in matrimony. Instead we are a union of women who are: independent, smart, lively, sexy, funny, and ambitious, who also happen to not be married.
It started a couple of years ago, three single women of a certain age wondering, in each of their own ways, what exactly the word spinster even meant. Unmarried? Unwanted? Destined to die with cats eating her face and a librarian eyeglass chain stretched across her neck?
Well, no. A spinster was a woman who could spin wool, a valuable skill for a woman in the 1900s, free women and even women who were newly emancipated, because it meant she could earn her own money. It meant she didn’t have to marry if she didn’t want to because she didn’t need the financial support only a man could bring.
But, the word spinster got twisted and turned in on itself, known not for the kind of independent woman it was supposed to represent, but as a woman no one wanted to be. It came to mean a woman who had not been chosen and women have struggled desperately against the fate of spinster for decades.
Except, these days the world is overrun with spinsters, women are choosing to be single or are finding themselves single far longer than they expected. And for the three of us, single women from 35-45, we no longer wanted to suffer under the label of spinsters. We’re clearly not alone: spinsters are taking over and declaring it nothing to be ashamed of and well, actually a label to wear with pride.
So, one day we decided, over cocktails and too much chips and guacamole, to create a space for women like us where we would share some of the ways we think about being single, get other spinsters to weigh in too, share thoughts and advice on everything from fashion to travel to food to how to negotiate sharing your life when love does come your way or whether single motherhood might be right for you. We wanted this to be a community for women just like us and just like you.
In the weeks and months to come we’ll fill this site with content we hope you like and we want to hear from you through comments and eventually a community forum where you can share tips and advice.
Welcome to The Union. We’re so glad you’re here.
Camille, DeDe, Juliette